A relationships friend asks,
“Hi there, I’m 24, been in a relationship with a guy for over a year now…
A month or so ago I found out he was using a messaging app to contact other people, specifically a girl he said he randomly found on another website. There were very inappropriate conversations, which led on for 3-4 months. He would tell her “I love you” and things similar to that.
Needless to say I was floored, wrecked, speechless. When confronted, he said that it was just for fun, he got a kick out of preying on someone else’s emotions. Now I’m not sure whats worse- what he claims he was doing or if he was truly having an online relationship..
We have been working through this and getting to a better place-however tonight…. tonight I discovered that he contacted a transsexual hooker 2 months prior to the start of our relationship. He maintains he met up with her but couldn’t go through with it.
I still love him, and I know he is still a good guy at heart. But how do I get past all this? Am I being blind? I feel I can’t turn to my friends because it is so embarrassing… HELP!!”
I’m sorry that you have found yourself in this situation.
When you say,
When confronted, he said that it was just for fun, he got a kick out of preying on someone else’s emotions.
If this statement is true, he is a sick individual.
If this statement isn’t true, and he has used it to throw you off the truth, he’s a sick individual.
If this statement is true, combined with the fact that he’s been lying to you, he’s a sick individual, and one you could do without.
Run like the dickens!